THE TRAUMA OF WIDOWHOOD

MISSING A LOVED TREASURE

WIDOWHOOD IS SOMETHING THAT BEFALLS PEOPLE UNEXPECTEDLY WITHOUT PRIOR ARRANGEMENT OR KNOWLEDGE AND IT GOES ALONG WITH A LOT OF OTHER EFFECTS,BUT THIS EFFECTS CAN BE OVERCOME, IF WHOEVER IS INVOLVED GETS HIM OR HERSELF COMPOSED WHATEVER THE SITUATION, I WAS BY THE FIRE BROODING OVER MY EXPERIENCES AND THINKING OF HOW MUCH I LOVED AND MISSED MY BELOVED,ESPECIALLY WHEN I REMEMBER HOW HE USED TO CUDDLE ME,PET ME WHEN I AM UPSET,TALK GENTLY TO ME AND HOW WE USED TO SIT BY THE TV OR BY THE FIRE DISCUSSING,"WHAT A MEMORY!" AND PLANNING ABOUT TOMORROW AND THE FUTURE,IT WAS REALLY NICE AND LOVELY, ALTHOUGH I HAVE FAMILY TO GO TO AND RELY ON ,BUT ITS NOT LIKE WHEN HE WAS HERE, I MISSED HIM,BUT I HAVE REALISED THAT LIFE CONTINUES NO MATTER WHAT,SO I HAVE DECIDED TO FACE MY BUSINESS,FACE MY LIFE,TAKE GOOD CARE OF HOME WHICH I HAVE NOT DONE FOR A LITTLE WHILE DUE TO DEPRESSION, FRUSTRATION,PAIN,SLEEPLESS NIGHTS AND THINKING.

I DO REALIZE THAT FOR A WIDOW NOT TO MISS THE LOVED ONE,ITS GOOD TO SHOW THEM LOVE AND AFFECTION,INVITE THEM ONES IN A WHILE FOR OUTINGS WHICH WILL MAKE THEM TO BE IN A GATHERING OF FRIENDS AND FAMILY ,WITH A LOT OF DISCUSSION AND LAUGHTER,THIS WILL GIVE THEM A REASSURANCE OF BETTER LIFE AHEAD. ITS GOOD TO ADVISE AGAINST THINKING ALL THE TIME WHICH MIGHT LEAD TO HEALTH ISSUES AND DEPRESSION AND A LOT OF UNNECESSARY SITUATIONS AND CIRCUMSTANCES. ENCOURAGEMENT AND SUPPORT IS VERY NECESSARY TOO.

HOARDING AND ITS EFFECTS

WHY DO THEY HOARD AND WHAT DO THEY HOARD?

hoarding is a delicate issue to discuss and very difficult to comprehend but from my understanding i will say hoarding is a pattern of behavior that is characterized by the excessive acquisition and inability or unwillingness to discard large quantities of objects that would seemingly qualify as useless or without  any values.there are different kinds of hoarders e.g.compulsive hoarding,book hoarding,animal hoarding e.t.c.

It is not clear, if hoarding is an isolated disorder, or rather a symptom of another condition, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder. It is rated to be more in adults, and is greater in older adults than younger groups, in men versus women.The factors associated with the disorder include alcohol dependence as well as loss of loved ones especially due to death or divorce, and obsessive-compulsive traits.people who have suffered an emotional trauma or a brain injury often find house cleaning an insurmountable task,thereby turning there house to "Gabage Can".

The effect of hoarding behavior has been associated with health risks, impaired functioning, economic burden, and adverse effects on friends and family members. hoarding can prevent typical uses of space so as to limit activities such as cooking, cleaning, moving through the house, and sleeping. It can also be dangerous if it puts the individual or others at risk for fire, falling, poor sanitation, and other health concerns

Doris, lived with her 2 children, aged between 1 and 28, and described her current hoarding behavior as a 'small problem that mushroomed' many years ago, along with corresponding marital difficulties. with the exception of the bathroom, none of the rooms in the house could easily be used for their intended purpose. Entry to the house was through the garage and the kitchen.

ANIMAL OR PETS DAYCARE

DO PETS OR ANIMALS NEED DAYCARE OR NOT?

SOMETIMES I SAY TO MY SELF,COULD IT BE POSSIBLE TO HAVE DAYCARE FOR PETS OR NOT?, AND I USE TO WONDER WHY SOME PEOPLE TAKE THERE PETS ON A LONG JOURNEY,WHEN THEY COULD ACTUALLY KEEP THEM SOMEWHERE, IN MANY CASES SOME PEOPLE WHO HAVE RELATIVES WHO CAN, DO ASK THEM TO COME OVER TO THEIR PLACE AND TAKE CARE OF THEIR MANY PETS UNTIL THEY COME BACK.

I HAVE SEEN CASES WHERE PEOPLE CANCEL THERE TRAVELS, ESPECIALLY IF THERE IS NOBODY TO HANDLE THEIR PETS FOR THEM ,UNLESS THEY HAVE THE PRIVILEGE OF LODGING THEM IN HOTELS THAT PERMIT PETS,THEN THEY TAKE THEM ALONG.

I THOUGHT TO MYSELF,IF PEOPLE CAN GO TO SO MUCH TROUBLE IN MAKING SURE THERE PETS ARE HAPPY, WHICH IS RIGHT, THEN IS IT NOT BETTER TO HAVE DAYCARE FOR PETS/ANIMALS WHERE  THEY CAN TAKE THEM TO?. THERE WILL DEFINITELY BE CHALLENGES ON HOW TO HANDLE AND MANAGE PETS FOR DAYCARE PURPOSE, FORTUNATELY CHANGING OF DIAPERS  IS NOT NECESSARY BUT, MORE INTERESTING THINGS CAN BE DONE LIKE FEEDING,TAKING THEM OUT ON A WALK,EXERCISE THEM,SHOW THEM LOVE AND ATTENTION AND PEEING THEM.

WHAT A NEW YEAR'S EVE

A WONDERFUL EVE

IT WAS A VERY LONG DAY, BUT INTERESTING ONE TOO,WE WERE JUST CONTEMPLATING ON WHAT TO DO FOR THE YEAR ENDING ,BUT MY BRAIN WAS SPINNING AROUND THINKING OF WHAT TO DO,THEN IT DAWNED ON ME THAT WE HAVE TO TAKE THE DOG OUT TO THE VETERINARY FOR GROOMING.

WE WENT VISITING A FRIEND,WHO WAS VERY HAPPY SEEING US AND WE LATTER DECIDED ON GOING TO HAVE SOME FUN AT THE BUFFET,BUT THE THOUGHT OF EATING MADE MY STOMACH TO BE VERY YUMMY AND MY MOUTH WAS SO WATERY AND MY STOMACH WAS CRYING AND MAKING A LOT OF NOISE , BUT IT WAS A LOT OF FUN SEEING A LOT OF PEOPLE AT THE RESTAURANT AND THE WHOLE PLACE WAS FULL OF HUSTLING AND BUSTLING,THAT I WAS SO EXCITED, BECAUSE IT'S NOT ALWAYS THAT BUSY AND AFTER THE BUFFET, WE WERE AT THE MOVIE THEATRE  WATCHING OUR EYES OUT AND HAVING A LOT OF FUN.

THE MOVIE WAS VERY EXCEPTIONAL, BUT MORE EXCEPTIONAL WAS AT THE BAR AND A LOT OF DANCING AND LISTENING TO MUSIC. IT REALLY WAS A LOVELY EVENING AND I WISH THE NEW YEAR EVE WILL NEVER END,JUST FOR THE FUN OF IT,I WISH FOR MORE OF SUCH IN THE COMING YEAR ESPECIALLY FOR THE EXCITEMENT THAT CAME WITH IT, WHEN THINKING OF ENTERING A NEW AND WONDERFUL YEAR.

A YEAR TO REMEMBER

WHAT A MEMORABLE YEAR

WE HAD A GREAT TIME SPENDING THE NEW YEAR WITH OUR FAMILY AT OUR HOME,AFTER ATTENDING A GIRL SCOUT ROLLER SKATING EVENT.WHEW! I HAVEN'T BEEN IN ROLLER SKATES FOR YEARS WHAT A HORROR STORY AND EVENT!,MY SIS COMPETED IN LEBANON AND CINCINNATI,OHIO FOR GYMNASTICS THIS MONTH.WE ALWAYS HAVE FUN AT HER MEETS ,BUT ESPECIALLY ENJOYED THE ONE IN CINCY BECAUSE IT WAS FAR ENOUGH AWAY TO SPEND THE NIGHT AT A HOTEL,PRIOR TO THE COMPETITION,WITH ANOTHER GYMNAST AND HER MOTHER.WHAT FUN! AFTER PRACTICE WE DROVE DOWN,HAD DINNER AT OLIVE GARDEN,AND THEN THE GIRLS HAD A BLAST IN THE DESERTED INDOOR POOL AT THE HOTEL. I, PERSONALLY,APPRECIATED THE COMPLIMENTARY HOT BREAKFAST THAT WAS PROVIDED THE NEXT MORNING: )

THE MONTH OF MARCH WAS LARGELY DEVOTED TO THE GIRL SCOUT COOKIE SALE!I WAS "COOKIE MOM" AND HAD COOKIES EVERYWHERE ! THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO SUPPORTED LUCY!SHE AND ANOTHER SCOUT TIED FOR TOP SELLER AND RECEIVED LOTS OF COOL PRIZES.LUCY AND HER COUSIN,SANDRA,RECEIVED THEIR FIRST HOLY COMMUNION TOGETHER AMONGST FAMILY AND FRIENDS. .....OF COURSE ,DADDY HAD A HARD TIME LOOKING AT HIS BEAUTIFUL LITTLE GIRL KNOWING THAT SOMEDAY HE WILL MOST LIKELY (MOST LIKELY )HAVE TO GIVE HER AWAY.

WE TOOK THE KIDS OUT OF SCHOOL THREE DAYS EARLY TO FLY TO ORLANDO WHERE WE STAYED AT BEAUTIFUL RESORT AND VISITED WALT DISNEY WORLD FOR THE FIRST TIME AS A FAMILY.WHILE THERE ,WE ALSO HAD FUN AT UNIVERSAL STUDIOS :ISLANDS OF ADVENTURE TO SEE HARRY PORTERS WORLD,SEA WORLDS NEWEST WATER PARK,AND MANY OTHER FANTASTIC DESTINATIONS AND ACTIVITIES.THE WONDERFUL MEMORIES WERE DEFINITELY WORTH THE MONEY.

THE KIDS LOVE "WRISTBAND TUESDAY," WHERE THEY CAN RIDE ANY OF THE AMUSEMENT PARK RIDES.MANY HANG OVER THE OCEAN.(SO COOL!)WE ALSO TOOK A SIDE TRIP TO NEW YORK TO VISIT THE STATUE OF LIBERTY WITH GRANDPA.WORDS CANNOT TRULY EXPLAIN HOW AMAZING IT WAS !THEN,TO CAP IT OFF WE DROVE TO NEW JERSEY TO DRIVE BY FAMOUS"CAKE BOSS"BAKERY/SHOW THAT I LOVE TO WATCH ON TELEVISION(THE LINE WAS 31/2 HOURS TOO LONG TO WAIT FOR ONE OF THEIR FAMOUS PASTRIES!);(OUR NEXT STOP WAS TO PHILADELPHIA TO VISIT THE FRANKLIN INSTITUTE SCIENCE MUSEUM,A HAND ON MUSEUM FOR KIDS.....AND ADULTS,I MIGHT ADD. I ENJOYED THE TWO-STORY MODEL OF THE HEART(I WISH I HAD THIS KIND OF CENTRE AVAILABLE TO ME WHEN TEACHING 4TH TO 5TH GRADE SCIENCE!).....AFTERWORDS

WE WERE TAKEN TO THE FAMOUS GENO'S,WHICH IS A RESTAURANT SPECIALIZING IN CHEESE STEAKS.

WE ENJOYED THANKSGIVING WITH BOTH OF OUR FAMILIES,OF COURSE,I WAS ONE OF THE MILLIONS OUT THAT EVENING TRYING TO "GET A DEAL"I WAS OUT FROM 9:00 PM-4:30 AM YEAH,I KNOW.....CRAZY,BUT WHAT A FUN ADRENALINE HIGH WITH  MY GOOD FRIEND.

WOW! JOHN IS FOURTEEN AND ITS ALREADY THE END OF,YET,ANOTHER YEAR!MY GOAL,AS OF NOW,IS TO CONCENTRATE ON THE TRUE MEANING OF CHRISTMAS AND FOCUS ON RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS DURING THIS BUSY TIME OF YEAR.WE SINCERELY HOPE THAT THIS YEAR WAS ALSO A HAPPY YEAR FOR YOU AND PRAY THAT THE NEW YEAR IS HAPPIER!.

                   .......MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

  

WHAT IS THE BEST WAY TO CURE COLD

HOW TO CURE COLD

THIS IS A LONG TIME ISSUE THAT NEEDS REDRESSING AND WHICH HAS REALLY GIVEN SOME PEOPLE SLEEPLESS NIGHTS ESPECIALLY WHEN IT IS GETTING TO THE END OF THE YEAR SOME PEOPLE GET NERVOUS OF THE COLD,I HAVE SEEN AND MET SOME PEOPLE WHO FEEL COLD IS A PROBLEM FOR THEM,SAYING THAT THEY DONT LIKE IT DESPITE THE FATC THAT THEY HAVE BEEN WITH IT ALL THEIR LIVES ,THEY STILL COMPLAIN, WHILE SOME ENJOY THE FACT THAT COLD IS ON THE WAY AND LOOKING BACK THE MEMORY LANE AND THE FUN THAT COMES WITH IT, ESPECIALLY THE ACTIVITIES THAT COMES WITH IT.FROM OPINION THE QUESTION ARISES : DO EVERYBODY ENJOY COLD?, OR ARE THEY JUST PRETENDING ABOUT COLD BECAUSE THEY HAVE NO CHOICE WHENEVER ITS HERE.

I WAS DISCUSSING WITH A FRIEND THE OTHER DAY AND I ASKED HIM, WHAT EXACTLY IS HIS OPINION ABOUT COLD, WHAT DOES HE THINK COULD BE A SOLUTION OR CURE TO COLD AND HE SAID HE HAS NOTHING TO SAY, AFTER A LOT OF DISCUSSION WITH DIFFERENT FRIENDS AND PEOPLE I KNOW , I CAME TO THE CONCLUSION THAT THERE ARE MEASURES TO TAKE CONCERNING  COLD:

• A STRONG BLANKET TO WRAP ROUND MY BODY
• I NEED TO TURN UP THE FURNACE IN THE HOUSE
• I NEED TO PUT ON A SNUGGY
• I NEED A VERY SERIOUS EXERCISE
• I NEED LOTS OF CLOTHING AND I MUST TRY MY BEST TO STAY INDOOR IF NEED BE

AFTER A LOT OF THOUGHT, REMEMBERING THE DAY THAT IT WAS SO COLD,THAT I WAS SHAKING LIKE CHRITMAS GOAT AND MY TEETH WAS CLAPPING,I CAME TO THE CONCLUSION THAT TO CURE THE COLD I HAVE TO TAKE THE ABOVE MEASURES.

COMPARISON OF BASEBALL AND SOFTBALL

DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BASEBALL AND SOFTBALL

Although this two sports are different from each other, they have lots of similarities which is very appealing,I was always used to the football(soccer)but the first time i watched softball and baseball live, I fell in love with both sports thereby making me to be curious about what Differences and Similarities there is in both sports.If you think about ball games, baseball and softball are amongst the most popular ball games that you may have in mind.
A comparison between softball and baseball can simply be made as softball is directly descended from baseball and therefore, it contains some important similarities.Despite the game's name, the standard softball is not soft; in fact, it is harder than a baseball. Baseball is the game played by two teams using a ball and bat. Each team consists of 9 players. To score, the thrown ball must be hit using a bat. Your teammate needs to touch sequence of 4 bases positioned at the sides of a diamond or 90 foot square. Softball on the other hand, is also a team sport, which is considered as a direct descendant of baseball. However, softballs are much larger than baseballs and pitches are thrown underhand instead of overhand. It is played in a smaller diamond than is true for baseball. 
 

Playing Field differs in size in some area. Below are some of its differences on the following positions:

Infield - in Softball is the area of a field in equal territory that includes a section that is usually covered by infielder. In baseball, infield is located in the dirt surface area. The infield is the square known as the diamond that has 4 white bases and located on each corner.

Outfield - in Softball it is the area of a field away from the infield or diamond. The fielder and beyond the batsman occupy this space. The outfield in baseball is usually covered with grass. Each base is 5-sided rubber slab known as home plate. In the normal baseball field each base are 90 feet (27.4 meters) apart.

Foul Lines - in softball the 1st and 3rd base line, which distinguishes equal territory from four territories is called foul lines. In baseball, the foul pole is intended to assist umpire judge in deciding whether the fly ball which hit the fence border above is fair or foul. The foul lines are vertical extension poles.

Fair Territory - in softball, it is the area within the playing fields and include the 1st and 3rd base foul lines starting in home plate beyond playing field fences which are perpendicularly upward. In baseball, the fair territory includes the ground between the two long white lines. It is either confusing or amusing that the lines are officially called the foul lines and poles are called foul poles.

Batter Box - in softball, it is the box marked with chalk close to home plate, which the batter should remain within while battling. In baseball, it is drawn in white chalk, it is the area surrounding the home plate where the batter stands. It should be 6 foot rectangles and must be six inches away from the home plate.

Bases - in softball, home plates are bases in every corner within the diamond . Each base are canvas of fifteen inches square, of or the same material, and should not be more than five inches in thick. Each base is tagged counter clockwise as 1st, 2nd and 3rd base.


Foul Poles - in softball and baseball, it is positioned at the end of every foul line to differentiate foul territory from fair territory.

Pitcher's Mound - located at the center of the diamond it is the area from where the pitcher throws the ball.

Softball and Baseball are popular ball games that are being enjoyed by ball enthusiasts worldwide. Even children enjoy playing the game because of the satisfaction that they get from it. There are some differences in the playing field, but the idea of sportsmanship and teamwork is the main attraction in playing these games. There is no competition between the two ball games. These two games are somehow related to each other.