THE TRAUMA OF WIDOWHOOD

MISSING A LOVED TREASURE

WIDOWHOOD IS SOMETHING THAT BEFALLS PEOPLE UNEXPECTEDLY WITHOUT PRIOR ARRANGEMENT OR KNOWLEDGE AND IT GOES ALONG WITH A LOT OF OTHER EFFECTS,BUT THIS EFFECTS CAN BE OVERCOME, IF WHOEVER IS INVOLVED GETS HIM OR HERSELF COMPOSED WHATEVER THE SITUATION, I WAS BY THE FIRE BROODING OVER MY EXPERIENCES AND THINKING OF HOW MUCH I LOVED AND MISSED MY BELOVED,ESPECIALLY WHEN I REMEMBER HOW HE USED TO CUDDLE ME,PET ME WHEN I AM UPSET,TALK GENTLY TO ME AND HOW WE USED TO SIT BY THE TV OR BY THE FIRE DISCUSSING,"WHAT A MEMORY!" AND PLANNING ABOUT TOMORROW AND THE FUTURE,IT WAS REALLY NICE AND LOVELY, ALTHOUGH I HAVE FAMILY TO GO TO AND RELY ON ,BUT ITS NOT LIKE WHEN HE WAS HERE, I MISSED HIM,BUT I HAVE REALISED THAT LIFE CONTINUES NO MATTER WHAT,SO I HAVE DECIDED TO FACE MY BUSINESS,FACE MY LIFE,TAKE GOOD CARE OF HOME WHICH I HAVE NOT DONE FOR A LITTLE WHILE DUE TO DEPRESSION, FRUSTRATION,PAIN,SLEEPLESS NIGHTS AND THINKING.

I DO REALIZE THAT FOR A WIDOW NOT TO MISS THE LOVED ONE,ITS GOOD TO SHOW THEM LOVE AND AFFECTION,INVITE THEM ONES IN A WHILE FOR OUTINGS WHICH WILL MAKE THEM TO BE IN A GATHERING OF FRIENDS AND FAMILY ,WITH A LOT OF DISCUSSION AND LAUGHTER,THIS WILL GIVE THEM A REASSURANCE OF BETTER LIFE AHEAD. ITS GOOD TO ADVISE AGAINST THINKING ALL THE TIME WHICH MIGHT LEAD TO HEALTH ISSUES AND DEPRESSION AND A LOT OF UNNECESSARY SITUATIONS AND CIRCUMSTANCES. ENCOURAGEMENT AND SUPPORT IS VERY NECESSARY TOO.