WHEN YOU NEED A GOOD LAUGH,WHO OR WHAT DO YOU TURN TO?

WHO MAKES YOU LAUGH WHEN YOU NEED ONE?

Laughter comes as a source of happiness and piece of mind and there are different situations
which could warrant or bring about laughter. when we are in distress or unhappy we sometimes would want to be in the midst of friends and close relations who make us laugh, from my own little understanding, laughter is a great medicine for healing sorrows, pain, distress, depression, unhappiness and fatigue, laugh reduces stress and takes away unhappiness.

A lot of people look for where to have solace and happiness through laughter by going to a friend, that has great sense of humor and likes cracking a lot of jokes, some start laughing from what the kids are doing, television shows, comedy movies and soap opera is where some people turn to for laughter and happiness.  Some people turn to their Bible for laugh, Facebook and other social media is another place where some people go to. married couples look unto their partners for laughter and happiness, especially when one of them has a great sense of humor.

The creepiest and sweetest person alive can be your confidant when you need laughter, for example your best friends. your kids, member of family, relation, grand children and another thing that could make you laugh is your dog, especially when it is excited to see you after a long day's absence by wagging its tail and yelping. i watched a dancing dog video show and i started laughing and all my anger and depression went away.

WHAT DO YOU NOTICE ABOUT PEOPLE YOU JUST MET FOR THE FIRST TIME

what is your opinion about someone you met for the first time

We all individually have different opinion about what we think of someone we meet for the first time. some people are always suspicious of their first acquaintances, but from my own point of
view i would rather say, out look and appearance is what people look at for the first time. Some people try as much as possible to read the kind of person the new man is by checking his or her
outfit and appearance.  Mode of dressing and appearance really counts. In many cases, you look at peoples eyes to be able to judge the kind of person they are, and their mode of response and reaction  to conversation is something else, especially if he or she associates and smiles.

Talking about relationship and first impression, this is all determined by who you meet and
what for. In the business circle you look for  weakness and character for social interactions.
when you meet somebody for the first time you always look at his appearance and personality. Mostly the eye is a means of communication and you can read a lot in the eyes. First impression
for others is the eye and smile. the eyes can tell you a lot from them  because they are considered "the window to the soul".

It has been said that "if one has learned not to judge another, then one can selectively
hear and feel another heartbeat , besides their own."  Another form of expression about
meeting someone for the first time is the facial expression, it makes you see your inner
 feeling's and emotions. some people look at the way the new person communicate
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WHAT QUALITIES DO YOU VALUE MOST IN FRIENDS

WHAT WOULD YOU WANT IN A FRIEND?

Friendship is a relationship of two people with mutual understanding, care, affection and love coming together, in other words, it is the relationship of trust, faith and concern for each others feelings.  A true friend is always there for you at all times despite all conditions and circumstances, they will always believe in you even if you don't believe in yourself and they always keep promises.  there are qualities that accrues to a friend.

The qualities that i appreciate most in a friend are :

• Giving me unconditional love, having great sense of humor and considering me as part of their family.
• Honesty and willingness to forgive and take chances
• My friend must not be a liar and selfish
• A good friend must be loyal and kind.  must be someone that will listen and respond with frequent answers and must have a good heart with intelligence.
• My friend must be unpretentious and backbiting.
• A good friend will not hold grudges or take anything i say personally because they know i always have their best interest in mind at all times
• They are always there especially in times of need and chaos, they are there to advice and worry about you when the need arises.
• They accept me for who i am without judgement and criticism and are always supportive even if they don't appreciate what i do.
• They support me when i am right and they gladly and lovingly tell me when they feel i am wrong.
• They are not jealous of you, but will be happy at your achievements.

HOW TO QUIT SMOKING

what it takes to stop smoking

smoking is a habit which most people cultivated, from their teenage years especially when you see your friends smoking ,you will equally have the interest of joining them and with time it might be a habit depending on individuals,some smoke for few years and stop,some make it a once in a while thing while some take it as a one time thing ,while some take it as a full time chore(habit).

                                                     

What does it really take to stop smoking,it takes a lot of hard work and dedication because its never an easy operation to stop smoking.I remember some time ago when i was into smoking, it was pretty difficult to stop because sometimes if i say i want to stop,whenever i see anyone smoking by me,the craving will always come again and i will end up holding a stick of cigarett,but i later realised that whatever you want to do ,its decision of mind that really make it happen, but it's never easy,but determination of mind really has a lot of influence on decision to stop smoking.

                                             

I want you to look at your smoking habit and identify what triggers you, especially those things that make you want to smoke and from there you will relearn how you can handle them without cigarettes.

these are the things i would like for you to put into consideration, especially when considering quiting smoking:

1. Make a honest determination about quiting smoking.
2. Understand the fact that quiting wont be easy.
3. Set a quit date.
4. As you are preparing to quit ,stop buying boxes of cigarettes. 
5. Check your cravings most of the time and check how bad it is.
6. Get a list of things to do when cravings comes and try to determine not to go for the cigarette even if you have the cravings

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AT WHAT AGE DO YOU THINK ITS APPROPRIATE FOR CHILDREN TO GET CELL PHONES?

CELLPHONE AGE FOR CHILDREN

I WAS DISCUSSING WITH SOME FRIENDS SOMETIME AND THIS QUESTION ABOUT WHEN KIDS SHOULD BE USING MOBILE PHONES CAME UP, AND EVERYBODY HAD THEIR DIFFERENT OPINION AND SOME SAID AGE 12,13,AND 15 RESPECTIVELY, BUT IN REALITY WHAT AGE WOULD A PARENT WANT THEIR KIDS TO USE PHONES?, BECAUSE OF A LOT OF FACTORS LIKE CORRUPTION,DISCUSSING ISSUES NOT RELATING TO EDUCATION,NOT BEING ABLE TO MONITOR THE CHILD EVEN ON PHONE MAKES SOME PARENTS TO BE CAUTIOUS ABOUT WHEN TO ALLOW THEIR KIDS TO USE PHONES.

FROM MY VIEW I THINK USING PHONE FOR CHILDREN DEPENDS ON PARENTS AND THEIR BELIEVES AND OPINIONS,SOME PARENTS DUE TO RELIGION RESTRICT THEIR KIDS FROM USING PHONE UNTIL WHEN THEY ARE 18 AND SOME GIVE THEIR CHILDREN THE PRIVILEGE FROM AGE 11 OR 12 DEPENDS ON HOW SMART AND RESPONSIBLE THEY THINK THE CHILD IS ,SOME PARENTS THINK ITS APPROPRIATE FOR A CHILD TO USE PHONE FROM AGE 12 BECAUSE, WHEREVER THE CHILD IS THEY CAN BE MONITORED .SOME PARENTS LOOK AT THE RESPONSIBILITY OF A CHILD TO GIVE THEM PHONE.

SOME PARENTS HAVE NO CHOICE AS TO WHEN TO GIVE PHONE TO THEIR KIDS DUE TO CIRCUMSTANCES BEYOND THEIR CONTROL, SUCH AS CARRYING PHONE FOR HEALTH REASONS E.T.C. I KNOW OF A PARENT WHO'S CHILD STARTED USING PHONE IN 4TH GRADE WHEN THE CHILD DEVELOPED A MEDICAL CONDITION.THE FRIENDS THOUGHT THEY COULD USE THE PHONE TO CALL FOR HELP ANYWHERE AT THE PLAYGROUND IN CASE OF EMERGENCY.THE AGE THAT I WILL SUGGEST CELL PHONES FOR CHILDREN WOULD BE FROM AGE 12 AND ABOVE. google-site-verification: google13f29a9aad117b09.html

THE PIECE OF MIND

                THE UNDERSTANDING THAT BRINGS PIECE

This morning I was enjoying breakfast with a dear friend . Our time was interrupted by a phone call and a message that my wife’s mother had suffered a stroke and was in the hospital. I hurriedly made my way to the hospital to be at her side with other family members. She is doing well and even at this writing, the doctors are doing an MRI assessment on her condition, I had the privilege to look into her eyes and agree with her in faith for healing and recovery.  We believed for the peace that passes understanding to come over her.

This event troubled my heart. But, it also stirred me to greater faith . We carry on through life’s challenges with little thought for the presence of peace. “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding,Often, I have settled for the peace that matches my level of understanding, or that comes close to answering my “Why”. I tend to look for the cause, for the reason for the pain; rationalizing for the solution; hoping for the end of this suffering.

I value the fact that understanding comes from knowledge, Yet frequently our understanding falls short. Many times the cause has nothing to do with you or what you have done or could do. There are times when there is no earthly reason for the pain. It just is.

If you find yourself dealing with your life’s challenges, and peace seems to be missing; don’t settle. Don’t accept or seek peace through logical, explainable reasoning. That’s not peace at all. Rather, be non-anxious, be thankful and stay connected!

This is the understanding that brings peace!

THE BEST PLACE TO GET OUTSIDE AND ENJOY NATURE

NATURE AND ITS BEAUTY 

SOMETIMES I WONDER AT THE BEAUTY OF NATURE AND ALL IT HAS TO OFFER,THE EARTH,THE STARS,THE MOON,THE AIR AND A LOT OF OTHER NATURAL THINGS WHICH TELLS US HOW BEAUTIFUL NATURE IS AND I THOUGHT TO MY SELF,WHAT DO I THINK WOULD BE A WONDERFUL PLACE FOR ME TO ASSIMILATE NATURE OUTSIDE OF MY HOME,THEN I THOUGHT OF THE ZOO,CAMPING,HIKING,SETTING FIRE OUT IN THE COOL BREEZE AND ENJOY WHAT IT HAS TO OFFER.

                                                             

 I REALIZED THAT GOING FROM THE SOUND OF CARS,SOUND OF TRAIN AND THE HUSTLING AND BUSTLING OF THE CITY IS NOT A BAD IDEA,ANY NATURAL SETTING WILL DO,WHETHER IT IS A FOREST OR GRASSLAND,LAKE OR MOUNTAIN,WHERE I CAN ENJOY AND I WANTED IT TO BE FAR FROM CIVILIZATION.DO SOMETHING PEACEFUL SUCH AS FISHING OR MEDITATING IN THE WOODS AND LOOKING AT THE MOON AT NIGHT, AND I FELL IT WILL BE REALLY AMAZING AND RELAXING,JUST TO SIT BACK AND ENJOY THE SOUNDS OF THE WOODS AND BIRDS AND THE SOUND OF THE RIVER FLOWING,WATCHING THE FOUNTAIN OF WATER AND I THOUGHT TO MYSELF THIS SURELY WILL BE VERY EXCITING.

SOMETIMES IT IS GOOD TO GO NATURAL,LISTENING TO SOUNDS OF BIRDS,GO TO THE ZOO AND FEEL NATURE .

THE TRAUMA OF WIDOWHOOD

MISSING A LOVED TREASURE

WIDOWHOOD IS SOMETHING THAT BEFALLS PEOPLE UNEXPECTEDLY WITHOUT PRIOR ARRANGEMENT OR KNOWLEDGE AND IT GOES ALONG WITH A LOT OF OTHER EFFECTS,BUT THIS EFFECTS CAN BE OVERCOME, IF WHOEVER IS INVOLVED GETS HIM OR HERSELF COMPOSED WHATEVER THE SITUATION, I WAS BY THE FIRE BROODING OVER MY EXPERIENCES AND THINKING OF HOW MUCH I LOVED AND MISSED MY BELOVED,ESPECIALLY WHEN I REMEMBER HOW HE USED TO CUDDLE ME,PET ME WHEN I AM UPSET,TALK GENTLY TO ME AND HOW WE USED TO SIT BY THE TV OR BY THE FIRE DISCUSSING,"WHAT A MEMORY!" AND PLANNING ABOUT TOMORROW AND THE FUTURE,IT WAS REALLY NICE AND LOVELY, ALTHOUGH I HAVE FAMILY TO GO TO AND RELY ON ,BUT ITS NOT LIKE WHEN HE WAS HERE, I MISSED HIM,BUT I HAVE REALISED THAT LIFE CONTINUES NO MATTER WHAT,SO I HAVE DECIDED TO FACE MY BUSINESS,FACE MY LIFE,TAKE GOOD CARE OF HOME WHICH I HAVE NOT DONE FOR A LITTLE WHILE DUE TO DEPRESSION, FRUSTRATION,PAIN,SLEEPLESS NIGHTS AND THINKING.

I DO REALIZE THAT FOR A WIDOW NOT TO MISS THE LOVED ONE,ITS GOOD TO SHOW THEM LOVE AND AFFECTION,INVITE THEM ONES IN A WHILE FOR OUTINGS WHICH WILL MAKE THEM TO BE IN A GATHERING OF FRIENDS AND FAMILY ,WITH A LOT OF DISCUSSION AND LAUGHTER,THIS WILL GIVE THEM A REASSURANCE OF BETTER LIFE AHEAD. ITS GOOD TO ADVISE AGAINST THINKING ALL THE TIME WHICH MIGHT LEAD TO HEALTH ISSUES AND DEPRESSION AND A LOT OF UNNECESSARY SITUATIONS AND CIRCUMSTANCES. ENCOURAGEMENT AND SUPPORT IS VERY NECESSARY TOO.

HOARDING AND ITS EFFECTS

WHY DO THEY HOARD AND WHAT DO THEY HOARD?

hoarding is a delicate issue to discuss and very difficult to comprehend but from my understanding i will say hoarding is a pattern of behavior that is characterized by the excessive acquisition and inability or unwillingness to discard large quantities of objects that would seemingly qualify as useless or without  any values.there are different kinds of hoarders e.g.compulsive hoarding,book hoarding,animal hoarding e.t.c.

It is not clear, if hoarding is an isolated disorder, or rather a symptom of another condition, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder. It is rated to be more in adults, and is greater in older adults than younger groups, in men versus women.The factors associated with the disorder include alcohol dependence as well as loss of loved ones especially due to death or divorce, and obsessive-compulsive traits.people who have suffered an emotional trauma or a brain injury often find house cleaning an insurmountable task,thereby turning there house to "Gabage Can".

The effect of hoarding behavior has been associated with health risks, impaired functioning, economic burden, and adverse effects on friends and family members. hoarding can prevent typical uses of space so as to limit activities such as cooking, cleaning, moving through the house, and sleeping. It can also be dangerous if it puts the individual or others at risk for fire, falling, poor sanitation, and other health concerns

Doris, lived with her 2 children, aged between 1 and 28, and described her current hoarding behavior as a 'small problem that mushroomed' many years ago, along with corresponding marital difficulties. with the exception of the bathroom, none of the rooms in the house could easily be used for their intended purpose. Entry to the house was through the garage and the kitchen.

ANIMAL OR PETS DAYCARE

DO PETS OR ANIMALS NEED DAYCARE OR NOT?

SOMETIMES I SAY TO MY SELF,COULD IT BE POSSIBLE TO HAVE DAYCARE FOR PETS OR NOT?, AND I USE TO WONDER WHY SOME PEOPLE TAKE THERE PETS ON A LONG JOURNEY,WHEN THEY COULD ACTUALLY KEEP THEM SOMEWHERE, IN MANY CASES SOME PEOPLE WHO HAVE RELATIVES WHO CAN, DO ASK THEM TO COME OVER TO THEIR PLACE AND TAKE CARE OF THEIR MANY PETS UNTIL THEY COME BACK.

I HAVE SEEN CASES WHERE PEOPLE CANCEL THERE TRAVELS, ESPECIALLY IF THERE IS NOBODY TO HANDLE THEIR PETS FOR THEM ,UNLESS THEY HAVE THE PRIVILEGE OF LODGING THEM IN HOTELS THAT PERMIT PETS,THEN THEY TAKE THEM ALONG.

I THOUGHT TO MYSELF,IF PEOPLE CAN GO TO SO MUCH TROUBLE IN MAKING SURE THERE PETS ARE HAPPY, WHICH IS RIGHT, THEN IS IT NOT BETTER TO HAVE DAYCARE FOR PETS/ANIMALS WHERE  THEY CAN TAKE THEM TO?. THERE WILL DEFINITELY BE CHALLENGES ON HOW TO HANDLE AND MANAGE PETS FOR DAYCARE PURPOSE, FORTUNATELY CHANGING OF DIAPERS  IS NOT NECESSARY BUT, MORE INTERESTING THINGS CAN BE DONE LIKE FEEDING,TAKING THEM OUT ON A WALK,EXERCISE THEM,SHOW THEM LOVE AND ATTENTION AND PEEING THEM.

WHAT A NEW YEAR'S EVE

A WONDERFUL EVE

IT WAS A VERY LONG DAY, BUT INTERESTING ONE TOO,WE WERE JUST CONTEMPLATING ON WHAT TO DO FOR THE YEAR ENDING ,BUT MY BRAIN WAS SPINNING AROUND THINKING OF WHAT TO DO,THEN IT DAWNED ON ME THAT WE HAVE TO TAKE THE DOG OUT TO THE VETERINARY FOR GROOMING.

WE WENT VISITING A FRIEND,WHO WAS VERY HAPPY SEEING US AND WE LATTER DECIDED ON GOING TO HAVE SOME FUN AT THE BUFFET,BUT THE THOUGHT OF EATING MADE MY STOMACH TO BE VERY YUMMY AND MY MOUTH WAS SO WATERY AND MY STOMACH WAS CRYING AND MAKING A LOT OF NOISE , BUT IT WAS A LOT OF FUN SEEING A LOT OF PEOPLE AT THE RESTAURANT AND THE WHOLE PLACE WAS FULL OF HUSTLING AND BUSTLING,THAT I WAS SO EXCITED, BECAUSE IT'S NOT ALWAYS THAT BUSY AND AFTER THE BUFFET, WE WERE AT THE MOVIE THEATRE  WATCHING OUR EYES OUT AND HAVING A LOT OF FUN.

THE MOVIE WAS VERY EXCEPTIONAL, BUT MORE EXCEPTIONAL WAS AT THE BAR AND A LOT OF DANCING AND LISTENING TO MUSIC. IT REALLY WAS A LOVELY EVENING AND I WISH THE NEW YEAR EVE WILL NEVER END,JUST FOR THE FUN OF IT,I WISH FOR MORE OF SUCH IN THE COMING YEAR ESPECIALLY FOR THE EXCITEMENT THAT CAME WITH IT, WHEN THINKING OF ENTERING A NEW AND WONDERFUL YEAR.